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Lose Your Favorite Hat

Saturday I drove to Tampa to spend time with a friend at the Hard Rock Hotel & Casino. I was looking for a distraction from the terrible vision of death I’d had the day before and I certainly found what I was looking for on the casino floor. But I want to share with you something that happened on my drive to Tampa that I found much more enlightening.

I was driving my Miata with the top down, celebrating the summer sun even as thunderstorms threatened the horizon with flashes of lightning and gray sheets of thick rain. I felt free from work, free from responsibility, and very much alive. As my radio was blasting over the wind in the open cabin I was dancing in my seat, entertaining a school bus full of children in front of me who were pantomiming gestures through the rear windows. As I repeated their gestures I could see them laughing hysterically at the crazy guy in the little car behind them. I was in a fine mood and loving life. Within minutes traffic separated us and I waved goodbye with a smile so big it felt foreign and unfamiliar.

Moments later I adjusted myself in my seat and turned my body just a bit to get more comfortable…and my favorite hat, a Florida Gators ball cap I’ve had for years, caught the rushing wind and blew off my head into traffic behind me. Maybe if I’d pulled over immediately I could’ve rescued my hat, a bit worse for wear but nonetheless returned to my rightful possession. But as the distance grew between my moving car and my now certainly-mangled hat, it struck me how oddly I was behaving!

Here I am pursuing spiritual depth and enlightenment, having had a vision of death just the day before, and I am suddenly mourning the loss of a piece of headwear! I thought to myself, “If I struggle with losing a hat, it’s no wonder the idea of death terrifies me!”

Jesus words returned to me, “Do not store up treasures where moths and rust destroy, and thieves break in and steal.”

You might rightly consider me silly for being so attached to a hat, but as I continued along my way I spent a good ten minutes thinking about it, about my hesitation to pull over and retrieve it, about how I was clearly so attached to such a mundane object. The Buddha said that suffering comes from “clinging of mind”, and boy was my mind clinging to that hat!

I learned a valuable lesson that I’d like to pass along to you: We can become attached to our possessions quite easily, and often we are blind to the “little things” we cling to because we are so busy congratulating ourselves for not clinging to the “big things”!

I want you to think of a favorite little thing of yours. Maybe it’s a hat, a purse, or a pair of shoes. Maybe it’s a small painting or framed picture. Whatever it is, I’m sure by now your subconscious mind has provided you with an object. When you’re done reading this, I challenge you to seek out that object and place it promptly in the trunk of your car, whereupon you will deliver it to a thrift store or a homeless person as quickly as possible. If it’s not worth giving away, throw it away.

Lose your favorite hat. It’ll do you good!


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Four Ways To Feel Good Enough

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This Sunday at Three Taverns Church we’re going to talk about what it means to be “good enough” in God’s eyes:

  • Good enough to receive His love
  • Good enough to deserve His approval
  • Good enough to be who and what we are

Below is a list of four things all of us can do to begin to understand that we are “good enough” no matter where we are in life. I hope they are useful to you!

  1. Kill Your TV
    Turn off your TV and you’ll be on your way to feeling fine just the way you are. During an episode of your favorite show you’re told dozens of times that you are not good enough. This happens two ways. First, commercials. They claim you’ll be better off once you own whatever it is they have to sell you. Inferring that you’re inferior or incomplete until you buy…it. Second, the show itself, done subtly by making you wish you could be as funny, pretty or brave as your favorite character.
  2. Make A List
    Part of what makes you feel like you’re not OK is the stuff you’ve done to hurt yourself and others in the past. Time to deal with that crud. Write out a list of your fears, resentments, and harms you’ve committed against yourself and others. Yes, this is Step 4 of the 12 Steps of AA. And yes, it can work for you, too. Make the list, and check it twice to make sure it’s thorough. Take the list to a secluded public place. Read the list out loud. Then burn the list.
  3. Write A Letter
    There are people in your past who hurt you and made you feel like you never measured up. The feelings of inadequacy these folks left you with became part of your self-talk. You hear their voices in your head: You’re not pretty enough; you’re not smart enough; you’ll never be successful; you don’t deserve to be happy; you’re worthless. Time to shut those voices up. Write a letter to each person who hurt you this way. Pour out your heart. Tell them the ways they hurt you. Tell them you’re finished with their lies and that you’re ready to move on. Put the letter in an envelope and save it somewhere safe. Read it the next time you hear their words in your head.
  4. Skip Church
    For a long time (until I found Renew Church in Orlando) I considered my 12-Step group my “home church”. It was the only place my faith could be authentic and not works-based. Wish you could experience that, too? Blow church off for a week or two. Maybe even a month. Get some distance. You need to shatter the idea that God needs you in church, performing at 110%, in order to love and accept you. Trust me, God will be fine without you for a little while. When you’re ready to re-engage, consider visiting somewhere new. Plan a schedule to see 3-4 new churches that weekend: Early Saturday; late Saturday; early morning Sunday; mid-morning Sunday. Who knows…maybe you’ll find a group like my 12-Step friends who want to see you, without any pretense.

Do you have any other suggestions to break the cycle of negative self-talk and start feeling “good enough”?


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Who You Are Is Enough

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Who I am is enough. What I have is enough.
– Unknown

Who you are is enough. What you have is enough.

Doesn’t often feel that way, though, does it? Know why? Because we’re stuck in an addictive society which rejects this truth. If you had to rewrite the mantra above based on the way you feel on any given day, it would probably sound something like this:

Who I am is not smart enough, attractive enough, athletic enough, tall enough, cool enough, thin enough, strong enough, caring enough, loving enough, supportive enough, friendly enough, happy enough, healthy enough, spiritual enough, brave enough, hard-working enough, emotionally balanced enough, or accepting enough.

What I have isn’t…well, it isn’t enough!

John Rockefeller, one of the richest and most powerful men in American history, was once asked, “How much is enough?” His answer: “Just a little more.” Sure feels that way, doesn’t it?

But do you ever wonder why the holiest men and women of the Christian tradition, hell, of any tradition, lived in near poverty? If our self-talk is accurate and we need to be and have so much more, how could the saints have been right to choose the life they did? In fact, how could Jesus have been “enough” when he was broke and homeless the last 3 1/2 years of His life?

Because who He was, was enough. Because what He had was enough.

Who you are is enough. What you have is enough.

Why is that so hard to believe?

For one thing, you’re told hundreds of times every day through various marketing campaigns that you are not enough because you don’t yet own whatever it is the marketers are trying to sell. It’s hard for our self-talk to fight that kind of repetition.

Another reason it’s hard to believe who we are is enough is that we’re part of a productive society that requires its members to conform to a set of norms. This process of conformity starts at home, where we learn which parts of us are “good” and which parts are “not good”. We personalize our conformity to such a degree that we end up believing we are our behaviors, both the good and the not-good. In other words, my good behaviors make me good, and my not-good behaviors make me not-good. This is the fundamental problem of all religious systems…but that’s the topic of another post.

Who you are is enough. The “good” parts you love showing off and the “not good” parts you keep in the shadows.

What you have is enough. Yes, even if you’ve got less than Mr. Rockefeller.


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I’m Still Not Good Enough

I was never good enough as a kid. Hell, I’m still not good enough. It’s a problem that’s plagued me my entire life. It’s the reason I’m often so sad and angry.

As a child I tried my damndest to get accepted to the private school my older and younger brothers got into with ease. But every year I failed. Every year I got the skinny envelope in the mail telling me that, once again, I was not good enough to gain admittance to the state’s most exclusive school. Every year as a child I had to face my father’s anger and disappointment that his middle son could not get into the right school. I was a failure. I did eventually get into the school. In the 10th grade. The last possible chance to get in before the school stopped admitting new students. And I had been on the wait list.

I became a pornography addict at a very early age as a coping mechanism to deal with my home environment. On top of not being good enough to get into the right school, my guilt and shame from pornography confirmed what I already knew to be true: I wasn’t good enough.

Then puberty hit. Unlike my handsome and athletic brothers, I was gangly, nerdy, and bookish. I was socially awkward. I was funny-looking. I couldn’t play sports. I had no idea how to talk to girls. Throughout high school I was often alone and had almost no dating life to speak of. Classmates talked and bragged about their sexual experiences. I kept my pornography addiction a secret. Only a loser like me would have so much trouble getting dates and be addicted to pornography. I wasn’t good enough.

I got into a great college and got a 4.0 my first semester. But then I got homesick and transferred to the state school near my home. Dad was disappointed. Again. He still talks about it. I’d thrown away another opportunity. Now I was stuck in a college almost anyone could get into. This wasn’t going to lead to wealth and success. I wasn’t good enough.

So after another two years I transferred to a decent state school on the West Coast. I got decent grades in a respectable degree program. Things were almost starting to look up. Until graduation. I had no idea what to do with the degree I’d just earned. So I schlepped around as an admin assistant for the local newspaper for 18 months. Not a great gig. I was under-performing again, rudderless. I wasn’t good enough there, either, so I tried to make Dad happy by joining the military like he’d done.

I should’ve been a Navy SEAL. I would’ve been awesome. Instead I chose Finance. It’s what Dad wants, I told myself. And so began eight hard, struggling years in a career field that’s left me feeling like a failure. I’ve never been good enough in any Finance job.

I know many people can relate to at least one part of my story. Nearly everyone has their own tale of feeling like they’re not good enough. Some of the most successful people I’ve watched on TV or read about (I’m looking at you Andy Stanley) are successful because they’re trying to exorcise their own deep-seated feelings of inadequacy. They tell themselves, “Just a little more fame and/or fortune, and I’ll finally be good enough. Mom or Dad will finally be proud of me.”

The good news, the amazing news, is this: God already thinks each of us is good enough. Just exactly the way we are. Flaws and all. You don’t have to do shit to impress God. And this Sunday, I’m going to prove it to you.


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Seven Signs Your Church Is An Alcoholic System

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Alcoholism is more than a drinking problem; it’s an addictive way of dealing with the world. You don’t even need to drink alcohol to be an alcoholic. Alcoholics who don’t drink are called “dry drunks”. They are just as manipulative and abusive, but without the intoxicating aroma of Tennessee whiskey on their breath. Churches, if led by a “dry drunk”, can become unhealthy alcoholic systems, toxic to staff and members alike.

Use our checklist below to determine if your church is one of these unfortunate alcoholic systems. This is, of course, completely unscientific and is based solely on my own observations, as an addict, of other addicts and addictive systems.

  1. All-or-Nothing Thinking: Do you often hear messages about maintaining absolute moral purity at the risk of losing your salvation? Do your pastors consistently preach an “all-in” mentality toward Christian discipleship? If so, your church may be suffering from “all-or-nothing” thinking. This alcoholic state of mind sees the world only in extremes of black and white. Alcoholics believe that if a person, place or thing is not completely good it is, by default, completely bad.
  2. Worshipping To Cheer Up: There’s nothing wrong with feeling good when you worship God, but have you noticed that some churches make a habit of “getting high” on their worship experiences? Members of alcoholic church systems will often be heard saying that the only time they feel good is when they’re at church. Alcoholics say the same thing about alcohol; drug addicts, about drugs.
  3. Picking Favorites: Alcoholics pick favorites to emotionally manipulate others. “Dry drunk” church systems are no different. Church leaders in alcoholic systems will pick favorites among staff and volunteers to manipulate those around them, and to keep everyone’s attention off their own alcoholic behavior.
  4. Intolerance To Criticism: If you want to figure out whether someone is an alcoholic, criticize their drinking. They will not like it. At all. Alcoholic church systems are the same way. Test your church by constructively criticizing their stated theological beliefs. If they enter into a thoughtful, considered discussion with you, you may be safe. But if they’re “dry drunks” they will fly off the handle. Be prepared: Their ire won’t be limited to your criticism. They will attack you and shift the conversation from your legitimate questions to your own faults and shortcomings.
  5. Problems With Family Members As A Result of Church: It’s one thing to hold to your faith in the face of persecution. It’s quite another to abandon family and friends to maintain your status at your church. Any pastor who encourages this kind of inappropriate sacrifice is likely an alcoholic at their core. Or possibly a cult leader. I would run if I were you. Fast.
  6. Secretive Behavior/Lying: Christianity isn’t that complicated and it doesn’t require secrecy to be successful. We’re not the CIA. In fact, the New Testament authors were very big on being honest and authentic in every aspect of their lives. Church systems which can’t follow this simple guideline may be alcoholic. Frequent closed-door meetings or bald-faced lies should be a big red flag to you.
  7. Constantly Brings Up The Past: Remember your SNAFU at church three years ago? Your “dry drunk” pastor sure does! Alcoholics, whether they drink or not, are great at bringing up the past over and over. This usually happens when the alcoholic is under attack and wants to deflect attention away from themselves. Alcoholic church systems won’t let the little things go, and they don’t easily let people out of the “dog house”.

 

Being aware of alcoholic behavior is the first step in protecting yourself! If your church shows signs of suffering from three or more of these alcoholic symptoms, it may be time to find a new spiritual home.


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P-O-R-N

I’ve heard many pastors give messages they weren’t qualified to give:

  • One guy gave a sermon on biblical marriage, one month after his own wedding date
  • Another young guy gave a sermon about having faith in the midst of adversity. His life’s greatest adversity, which he used as an illustration? An awkward bathroom incident
  • A third pastor who had a public image of sexual purity, giving a message about sexual sin

I’m preparing for my sermon tomorrow. The subject: Pornography. As a recovering pornography addict I am uniquely qualified to preach on this subject. There are a lot of things I don’t like about myself. This is the worst item on that list. And I can’t do anything about it. I saw my first Playboy magazine when I was 5. I was addicted by 13. In psychological terms, this means I’m screwed. If an addiction takes hold before a person turns 13, that addiction will be with them for the rest of their lives.

My current struggles with pornography aren’t any easier than they used to be. I’ve planted a church. I know it’s not right. I know about the abuse many of the “stars” suffered as kids. I know about their drug use during filming. Despite this knowledge, there always comes a moment when looking at pornography seems like a really good idea…

…And not too long after that, the regret hits and I feel like God could never love or use a person as dirty and shameful as me. I know every man has been there. Most of us have been there in the last thirty days. It’s a statistical fact. Many women have been there too, in chat rooms and online dating sites.

And if there’s one Bible passage that makes us feel more hopeless and ashamed than any other when it comes to pornography, it’s probably Matthew 5:27-28:

“You have heard that it was said,   ‘You shall not commit adultery.’  But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

My initial reaction to this passage: Oh, crap! Matthew 5:27-28 means exactly what it says, and that makes me feel hopeless.

BUT…

The context of this verse points to the likelihood that Jesus wasn’t talking to common men and women; He was talking to the religiously self-righteous. Don’t believe me? Start reading at Matthew 5:17 and go through the end of the chapter. I believe Jesus was breaking through the denial of people who thought they were sinless. Honestly, if Jesus gave this sermon today I think He’d be addressing a room full of pastors and born-again Christians.

If you’re not in denial about your own sexual sin, I have good news: Matthew 5:27-28 isn’t for you. Or I should say, Jesus isn’t addressing you here. Because the verse itself is true: Lusting in your heart is tantamount to sleeping with another man’s wife. But you and I already know that. It’s why we feel like garbage so often. In fact, it’s the knowledge that we’re adulterous garbage which drives us around and around the addiction cycle.

Here’s the thing: That’s not how Jesus sees us. Because again, He’s not talking to us in Matthew 5:27-28. No, Jesus is talking to us in John 8:10-11:

Jesus stood up and said to her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”  She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said, “Neither do I condemn you; go, and from now on sin no more.”

This, of course, is the conclusion of the story about the woman caught in adultery. So why is Jesus so kind to her when we’re still wincing from Matthew 5:28? On one hand, Jesus rips us a new one for lusting after women. On the other hand, here’s Jesus offering grace and mercy to a woman caught in the act! How do we reconcile these two verses? The context, of course! The adulteress was not ‘religiously righteous’; she had no denial about who she was or what she’d done. Jesus, the only person with the authority to condemn her, refused to do it. And of course she went and sinned again. Jesus knew this and refused to condemn her anyway.

I was struggling to prepare my sermon, wrestling with these two seemingly opposite passages, when the contextual pieces fell into place. It’s really quite simple once you see it. Think with me: In Matthew 5, Jesus  targets the religiously righteous. In John 8, this same group challenges Jesus on the same subject. So how do we bring the two passages together? Three words: Cut-and-paste. I’ll end this post with a merged version of Matthew 5:27-28 and John 8:3-11. It’s so seamless and powerful you’d never guess the words weren’t all from the same chapter and book.

Stop living in denial. Stop living in shame.

The religious scholars and Pharisees led in a woman who had been caught in an act of adultery. They stood her in plain sight of everyone and said, “Teacher, this woman was caught red-handed in the act of adultery. Moses, in the Law, gives orders to stone such persons. What do you say?” They were trying to trap him into saying something incriminating so they could bring charges against him.

Jesus bent down and wrote with his finger in the dirt. They kept at him, badgering him. He straightened up and said, “You know the commandment pretty well: ‘Don’t go to bed with another’s spouse.’ But don’t think you’ve preserved your virtue simply by staying out of bed. Your heart can be corrupted by lust even quicker than your body. Those leering looks you think nobody notices—they also corrupt.

So, the sinless one among you, go first: Throw the stone.” Bending down again, he wrote some more in the dirt.

Hearing that, they walked away, one after another, beginning with the oldest. The woman was left alone. Jesus stood up and spoke to her. “Woman, where are they? Does no one condemn you?”

“No one, Master.”

“Neither do I,” said Jesus. “Go on your way. From now on, don’t sin.”


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God’s Grace & Pornography

If you’ve been reading this blog for any length of time you know that I’ve struggled with pornography all of my adult life. Long before I was baptized as an adult my pornography use followed the classic addictive cycle: Feeling shame after using pornography, and using pornography to hide from the shame. Needless to say my adult conversion into evangelical Christianity did not help this cycle.

I recently moved from Seattle, WA to Orlando, FL, to start a series of churches in bars. With the stress of the move came an increased use in pornography and an increase in my feelings of guilt and shame, which threatened to lead to a further increase in pornography use. To avoid this vicious cycle I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about what my pornography use looks like in the light of God’s grace.

It seems to me that over the last four years I tried to “be good”. I tried to stop using pornography so God would love me. I believed I could “earn” grace through good behavior. I didn’t believe God’s grace covered sexual sin, or at least not my sexual sin. But if grace is God’s unmerited favor why did I try to “merit” it through good behavior?

I claim to believe that God loves me unconditionally as His adopted son. I claim to believe Scripture when it says nothing can separate me from God’s love. I claim to believe that when Christ said, “It is finished,” He meant it.

Then why am I so afraid of my sin?

Don’t misunderstand me: I’m not arguing for a laissez-faire attitude toward sin. I don’t believe we should sin more to increase grace…but that’s not my particular problem. My problem is that I have trouble accepting myself for who I am, including my sinful nature. I wonder what would it look like if I stopped trying to “be good” and just moved along the path God has set me on?

Do I acknowledge my sin? Yes.

Do I repent of my sin? Yes, daily.

Will I sin tomorrow, possibly including the use of pornography? Yes, it’s a distinct possibility.

Do I believe God’s grace is able to cover my sin through the blood of Jesus Christ? Yes, I must hold to this hope.

So again I have to ask: Why am I so afraid of my sin? Why am I trying to “be good”? Even though I am not “good”, I am loved. Even though I am not “good”, I am forgiven. All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God, not just those who struggle with pornography.


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How To “Hate” – Luke 14:26

After reading my post “The Cost Of Being A Disciple” yesterday, my wife asked me to follow up on the idea of “hating” your family and your life. She believes that because it’s such a strong word it could be misunderstood and thus requires further explanation; I agree. So let’s try to discover what Jesus meant when He said:

“If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters — yes, even their own life — such a person cannot be my disciple.” (Luke 14:26, NIV)

Let’s start with the context of the book. The Gospel of Luke was written primarily for second-generation Christians, probably in the last quarter of the first century. Luke was a physician who both interviewed and had personal contact with some of the eye witnesses to the ministry of Jesus Christ, and he seems to direct his Gospel at a Greco-Roman (i.e. Gentile) audience. Luke 14:26 is mirrored here:

“Anyone who loves their life will lose it, while anyone who hates their life in this world will keep it for eternal life.” (John 12:25, NIV)

In both verses the Greek verb “miseo” (Strong’s G3404) is translated with the following meanings: 1) To hate, pursue with hatred, detest; 2) to be hated, detested.  “Miseo” is used 40 times in the New Testament, usually in reference to the attitude the world has for Jesus and His disciples, and vice versa. Some examples include:

John 15:18-19 “If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first. If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you.” (NIV)

John 15:23 “Whoever hates me hates my Father as well.”

John 17:14 “I have given them your word and the world has hated them, for they are not of the world any more than I am of the world.”

1 John 3:13 “Do not be surprised, my brothers and sisters, if the world hates you.”

I think a lot of people get hung up on the idea of “hating” our families because our culture places a strong emphasis on family ties. To some of us it might even sound “un-Christian” for Jesus to tell us to “hate” our fathers, mothers, brothers and sisters. But again, note that the word “miseo” is used almost exclusively when discussing the antagonistic relationship between the church and the world. Also note the following verse:

“‘Who are my mother and my brothers?’ he asked. Then he looked at those seated in a circle around him and said, ‘Here are my mother and my brothers!  Whoever does God’s will is my brother and sister and mother.'” (Mark 3:33-35, NIV)

Here Jesus concludes for us that our biological relationships should no longer govern us when we become disciples of Jesus; family relationships dissolve before Christ.

I believe that because our “true” family is the body of Christ (the church) rather than our biological family members (the world) it is completely consistent for the Gospel writers to use the word “hate” to describe the relationship between believers and their biological families. Again, the word “miseo” is never used to describe relationships within the church, only the relationship between the church and the world. If your father, mother, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, or cousins also happen to be active disciples of Christ and members of His body, so much the better! But just because someone is biologically related to you does not mean you have any allegiance to them once you take on the role of disciple.

Thus in Luke 14:26 I believe Jesus is telling His followers there is an absolute (i.e. black & white) difference between His church and everyone else, even one’s own family. If your parents do not serve the Lord, they are serving some other “god”, perhaps money, family, or even themselves. You should hate them if you love Jesus, because you cannot love them both.

Think about it this way: You don’t really love your wife if you regularly use pornography or have an affair. You don’t really love your kids if you spend your family’s money at the casino or the racetrack. Sure, you like the idea of loving your wife and kids because it sounds nice and it makes you feel good when you fool yourself into believing you love them, but you really don’t. In the same way you don’t really love Jesus if you capitulate to your worldly family on issues of faith and discipleship. Sure, you like the idea of loving Jesus because it sounds nice and makes you feel good when you fool yourself into believing you love Him, but you really don’t. You love yourself. You love your parents. You love your security. You love your cable, internet, and cell phone. You love your retail therapy. But you don’t love Jesus.

How can you believe that you are a disciple of Jesus when you won’t even give up cable TV to support His kingdom?

“If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple.  Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple.” (Luke 14:26-27, ESV)


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The American Gospel – On Diet

What we Americans may wish the Bible said about our diet (and somehow convince ourselves that it does):

Job 36:31 For by these he judges peoples; he gives food in abundance through all-you-can-eat buffets.

Psalm 59:15 They wander about for food and growl if they do not get their value meal super-sized.

Psalm 78:18 They worshipped God in their heart by demanding the chocolate they craved.

Psalm 115:5 He provides bottomless fries for those who fear him; he remembers his covenant forever.

Matthew 3:4 Now John wore a garment of camel’s hair and a leather belt around his waist, and his food was cheeseburgers and fries.

Matthew 10:9-10 “Acquire no gold or silver or copper for your belts, no bag for your journey, or two tunics or sandals or a staff, for the laborer deserves his candy, potato chips and soda.”

Luke 12:23 “For food is more than life, and bigger clothing can always be bought to fit your growing body.”

John 6:27 “Do not work for the food that perishes, but for the food that endures to eternal life like Twinkies or SPAM, which the Son of Man will give to you.”

Acts 27:35-36 And when Paul had said these things, he took a large bucket of extra crispy chicken, and giving thanks to God in the presence of all he began to eat. Then they all were encouraged and ate until they had to loosen their pants.

Philippians 3:18-19 For, as I have often told you before and now tell you again even with joy, many live as friends of the cross of Christ. Their destiny is assured, their god is their stomach, and their glory is in their expanding waistline. Their mind is set on value meals.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 Or do you not know that your body is a La-Z-Boy for the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God through fast food.

1 Timothy 6:7-8 For we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world. But if we have so much food that it rots in our fridge, we will be content.

 


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Addicted To Relationships

“You are addicted to relationships” Mothers, Sons & Lovers – by Michael Gurian

Yes, I’m addicted to the approval I get from people I’m in a relationship with. Unless they criticize me, at which point I’m likely to go to the other extreme and say, “To hell with them.” I need to feel the approval of others, and know that they want to be around me. Ending a relationship is very hard or me to do, because I’m losing a source of affirmation. When other people are the ones to end the relationship I feel very hurt and I respond with defensive anger.

Are you addicted to relationships? How has this affected your life?