I hope people never see the following behavior at Three Taverns Church:
If pastors intend for their behavior to be modeled, it is understandable that only their best behaviors and accomplishments are openly displayed. The outcome is that pastoral perfection is modeled to imperfect parishioners…The potent message sent is “you need to be a perfect Christian.” The attending assumption is the need to be completely successful or competent especially in overcoming all personal struggles and limitations.
I’m sick and tired of pastors only showing their best sides to the public.
I asked some folks at a local bar why they don’t go to church and I was given the following answer: “I wish (pastors) would just be themselves and stop trying to pretend they’re something they’re not.” How many of the pastors you know have carefully managed blogs, web pages, and Facebook accounts? Or to ask it another way, how often do you hear pastors confessing real sins, being “real” people, and acting like everyone else?
“Perfect” pastors make the rest of us feel like garbage. They don’t appear to sin, so when we sin we feel like somehow we’re not measuring up, which just makes the shame of our sin that much worse. To be fair, if pastors confessed to the same sins we commit, how long would we let them be our pastors? The church is stuck in a catch-22: Pastors are damned if they don’t and damned if they do.
That’s one reason why I’m starting Three Taverns Church. Right from the get-go anyone who comes to our church will know I’m a sinner; I won’t be put on a pedestal. At Three Taverns you’ll never have to worry about whether or not you’re a “good enough” Christian…and you’ll never get to bitch about the pastor.