Is it possible to have a mid-life crisis at 35? I think it must be, because that’s what life feels like these days.
I’ve been struggling with a pornography addiction for over two years, and during those long days I thought I was in “crisis” mode. Then six months ago my third child was born and like someone flipping a switch everything changed in my life. This blog, which I contributed to at least once a day, stopped getting my attention altogether. In the last 180 days I’ve probably written two or three posts rather than the nearly 200 I was on pace for. Sobriety from pornography suddenly became far less important than it used to be and as such I lost my sobriety…but discovered it wasn’t the end of the world. My marriage entered a time of trial but despite that difficulty it’s probably the healthiest thing that’s happened to our relationship since we said “I do”. My house is in foreclosure, I’m in a new job with a new company, church attendance has practically stopped, I don’t write anymore, desire and passion are down across the board…
More than ever I find myself asking, “What the hell am I doing with my life?” The better question probably is, “What the hell should I be doing with my life?” And while I don’t have the answer to that question I know for certain that I’m not happy with who or what I am today.
Do you believe it’s possible to have a “mid-life crisis” at 35? If you’ve been through a “mid-life crisis” would you be willing to share some of your experiences and the things you learned?