Dear Mr. Resentment,
You are hereby terminated, effective immediately. You have fifteen minutes to collect your personal belongings from your desk and exit the building; security will escort you out.
Your term of employment with this company has been a disaster: You are unproductive; your presence is toxic; you are a drain on the time and energy of those around you; you have directly and negatively affected our ‘bottom line’ on more than one occasion. My greatest regret is that I did not make this change years ago.
You spend hours of company time stewing about people who have wronged you in some way. Most of the time these are either minor or imagined slights, yet you hold on tightly to your anger and will not let go. What’s worse, you walk around the office and spread your disease to your coworkers. Furthermore, you have cost this company business opportunities because you let your personal feelings get in the way of logical thinking.
I wish you could see your behavior from my perspective, Mr. Resentment, so you’d know how unnecessary, how utterly ridiculous, your attitudes and actions are. Your behavior seems to stem from the completely unrealistic world-view that you are the only person on the planet allowed to make mistakes. You and I have talked about your mistakes in the past, and you always demanded that I should treat you fairly. And yet when your coworkers make mistakes in their dealings with you, you are very quick to berate them and you hold on to that anger for months! As Zig Ziglar says, “Acid eventually destroys the vessel which holds it,” and your resentments are destroying you. They have cost you this job, and if you don’t change, your resentments may cost you your marriage as well as your friends and family.
I’ve found someone to replace you: A man named Jesus Christ. Jesus is a kind and gentle man, full of grace for everyone. When one of Jesus’ friends, Peter, asked Him about resentment, Jesus said we should forgive people an infinite number of times. That is the kind of person I want working here! When people make mistakes and hurt each other’s’ feelings (and let’s face it: we’re all human and we’re all going to do that from time to time) I want an employee who will forgive and forget, not one who will fester with anger for months on end! Just thinking about how much energy you waste drives me nuts. What possible purpose can your resentments have served? The people you were angry at never knew they had wronged you, and because you were too childish to deal with your problems directly you let your anger consume you from the inside out. I can’t wait to make this change happen; it’s going to be like a breath of fresh air having you replaced.
One last point as we part ways, Mr. Resentment: Don’t dwell too long on this event. Yes, it’s a temporary setback for you, but you now have the opportunity to practice letting go of resentment. I hope you learn from this experience; if you don’t, this will not be the last job you will lose.