I was going to lead into today’s post with an analogy to dieting but that just seemed like a waste of our collective time, so instead I’m going to cut to the chase. Step 6 is: Flee the situation (if necessary).
There are some situations that no amount of bouncing, ignoring, praying, or surrendering will work in. Sometimes the temptation is just too strong and you’ve got to go. You’ll know when it’s the right time to flee because you will feel completely overwhelmed by the triggers around you. It’s happened to me at the gym more than anywhere else, and I’ve chosen to cut several workouts short and walk out the door rather than struggle to work the other steps. Discretion is the better part of valor, as they say.
If you are addicted to pornography (nearly all pornography users are compulsive or addictive users) fleeing the situation will be harder than it sounds because there is a part of you that won’t want to leave. Even though you will feel anxious, stressed, frantic and generally unhappy, you will be tempted to stay because of your addiction. You’d rather continue to be triggered and be in misery than walk away and be healthy. Yes, that is insane. Welcome to the wonderful world of pornography, where husbands and wives trade away their health, careers, families and marriages every day.
Today’s challenge: The next time you are in a situation that completely overwhelms your best efforts to work the previous 5 steps, just leave. Run. You won’t be a coward; rather, you’ll be a sensible person who’s chosing health over insanity.